PDF FORM: October 2018
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PO Box 27783
Ralston, NE 68127-0783
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Omaha, NE 68116
4901 Dodge St
Omaha, NE 68132
Grand Central Station
New York, NY 10163
MARK YOUR CALENDARS FOR THESE COMMITTEE MEETINGS
MONTHLY – 1ST MONDAY
Beautiful Savior Lutheran Church
3314 So. 44th Ave
Parking on west side of building
MONTHLY – 1ST THURSDAY
Trinity Methodist Church & Community Center 8009 Q St Ralston
None in October
NEXT IS SEPTEMBER 16 1-3 PM
Topic and speakers TBA
AREA 41 2018
Ramada Columbus Hotel and Conference Center
265 33rd Ave Columbus, NE 68601
Yours in Service
|Alt. DCM||Cliff V.||402-659-5466|
|Central Office||Julie F.||402-651-3276|
|Events||Lori B. and Kyle K.||402-616-0111|
October the 10th Month
Step10 The excerpts from The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, page 8 are reprinted with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.
“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Can we stay sober and keep emotional balance under all conditions? Self-searching becomes a regular habit. Admit, accept, and patiently correct defects. Emotional hangover. When past is settled with, present challenges can be met.
Varieties of inventory. Anger, resentments, jealousy, envy, self-pity, hurt pride- all led to the bottle. Self-restraint first objective. Insurance against “big-shot-ism” Let’s look at credits as well as debits.”
The purpose of Step 10 of Alcoholics Anonymous encourages you to examine yourself as a part of your daily routine. Just as you addressed your defects, you must keep your successes in check. It’s easy to fall back into a life of pride and self-satisfaction.
STEP 10 WORKSHEET:
REVIEW YOUR ACTIONS AND WHAT YOU DID WRONG TODAY IN RELATION TO OTHERS.(AGAINST YOUR VALUES.)
1). What was the incident?
2). Did this do harm to others, if so, how?
3). How were your actions in contradiction to how you expect yourself to treat others?
4). How do you intend to make your amends?
REVIEW EXPECTATIONS OF HOW OTHERS SHOULD ACT IN RELATIONSHIP TO YOU OR IN YOUR PRESENCE, THAT LEFT RESENTMENT/UNRESOLVED CONFLICT.
1). What was the incident?
2). Who was harmed by their actions?
3). How were their actions in contradiction to how you expect others to act around you?
4). How do you intend to resolve this issue?
REVIEW WHAT YOU DID RIGHT. (The action that demonstrated strength about your character.)
1). What was the incident?
2). Who benefited from your actions?
3). How were your actions supportive of your values/beliefs?
4). Give yourself an “at-a boy”, or at-a-girl”
“Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.”
No A.A. group or member should ever, in such a way as to implicate A.A., express any opinion on outside controversial issues — particularly those of politics, alcohol reform, or sectarian religion. The Alcoholics Anonymous Groups oppose no one. Concerning such matters, they can express no views whatever
FROM THE BIG BOOK
Beginning this month there will be printed a short biography of an author of one of the stories in the Big Book. The feature this month is Bob P. from CT. p 554 3rd edition and p 553 4th edition. Reprinted from http://www.a-1associates.com/aa/HISTORY_PAGE/Authors.htm
AA Taught Him To Handle Sobriety
“God willing, we may never again have to deal with drinking, but we have to deal with sobriety every day.”
Bob joined A.A. in New York City in 1961, probably never dreaming one day he would be the manager of A.A.’s General Service Office.
Bob was born in Houston, Texas, but raised in Kansas, the only child of loving parents. His parents drank only socially, and his father gave him his first drink — a tiny glass of sherry to celebrate the New Year — when he was thirteen. He immediately saw the effect it had on him and prayed he wouldn’t drink any more. But in college he began to drink at fraternity parties and beer busts.
The family moved frequently and Bob found himself in a different school every year until high school, where he was always the new kid who had to prove himself. He retreated into a fantasy world. He became the classic over-achiever and sold his first article to a national magazine while still an undergraduate.
After graduation from college he moved to New York to pursue a writing career and landed a good job. He was soon regarded as a “boy wonder.” But by age twenty-two he was a daily drinker.
He then had difficulty in every aspect of his life. His service in the Navy was marred when he was given a “Captain’s Mast,” i.e., discipline for trouble he got into while drinking. His marriage suffered, his values became distorted, and by forty his health was severely damaged.
When the doctor told him he would have to stop drinking he did, for ten months, with no apparent difficulty, but he did not enjoy life without drinking, and soon he was drinking again and his physical condition deteriorated further.
He developed cirrhosis of the liver, had frequent blackouts, severe nosebleeds, angry bruises which appeared mysteriously all over his body. Despite three episodes of losing large quantities of blood by vomiting and from his rectum, he drank again.
His doctor finally gave up on him and referred him to a psychiatrist in the same suite of offices. “He happened to be, by the grace of God,” Bob wrote, “Dr. Harry Tiebout, the psychiatrist who probably knew more about alcoholism than any other in the world.” At that time Dr. Tiebout was serving as a nonalcoholic trustee on the General Service Board.
Dr. Tiebout sent him to High Watch to dry out. There he read the Big Book and began his slow road back to health and sanity.
When Bob had been in A.A. only a short time, an oldtimer told him that A.A. does not teach us how to handle our drinking, but it teaches us how to handle sobriety.
Not only did his health recover, so did his marriage, his relationship with his children, his performance on his job.
All these things A.A. gave him, but most of all it taught him how to handle sobriety, how to relate to people, how to deal with disappointments and problems. He learned that “the name of the game is not so much to stop drinking as to stay sober.”
“God willing, we members of Alcoholics Anonymous may never again have to deal with drinking, but we have to deal with sobriety every day. How do we do it? By learning — through practicing the Twelve Steps and through sharing at meetings — how to cope with the problems that we looked to booze to solve, back in our drinking days.”
Bob has served A.A. in many ways. He worked for G.S.O. for twelve and a half years. He was a director and trustee of the General Service Board for six years and office general manager for a decade. Upon retirement from G.S.O. in 1986, he took on the task for G.S.O. of writing an update of A.A.’s history covering the period from the publication of “Alcoholics Anonymous Comes to Age,” through its fiftieth year. Unfortunately, this manuscript was never published.
At the 1986 General Service Conference, Bob gave what the 1986 Final Report called “a powerful and inspiring closing talk” titled “Our greatest danger: rigidity.”
He said: “If you were to ask me what is the greatest danger facing A.A. today, I would have to answer the growing rigidity – the increasing demand for absolute answers to nit-picking questions; pressure for G.S.O. to ‘enforce’ our Traditions, screening alcoholics at closed meetings, prohibiting non-Conference approved literature, i.e., ‘banning books,’ laying more and more rules on groups and members. And in this trend toward rigidity, we are drifting farther and farther away from our co-founders. Bill, in particular, must be spinning in his grave, for he was perhaps the most permissive person I ever met. One of his favorite sayings was ‘Every group has the right to be wrong.'”
Bob continues to give his service to A.A. in many ways. At the International Convention in Minneapolis in 2000, he appeared to be handling many jobs. He filled in to lead at least one of the small meetings, “Pioneers in A.A.” The program does not list him as the Moderator. He was probably filling in for someone else at the last minute.
Thought to Ponder
You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.
As Marilyn Sees It
Dear Marilyn, my sponsor is out of town on vacation. I don’t want to bother him but I have something I’d really like to talk to him about. What should I do? Perplexed.
Dear Perplexed, when we become willing to sponsor someone, we agree to be of service when needed. Did you ask your sponsor before he left on vacation if it was okay to contact him? Always make sure you have “deputy sponsors” you can call if your sponsor is completely unreachable. You can always call his sponsor, too. I suggest calling your sponsor and giving it a try. He’ll let you know if he’s somewhere he can talk or not.
Dear Marilyn, I seem to raise my hand to help with any service work there is. Then I find myself overextended and don’t feel like doing it. Sometimes I just haven’t shown up. What’s wrong with me? Always willing.
Dear Always Willing, I love service work! It has helped keep me sober for a long time. Service work is important. It also is important to those you offer to help. Are you volunteering for too many things? Talk to your sponsor about your commitments and see if you need to talk about balance. If you are on a committee, they count on you to be there and actively participate. If you volunteer to chair a meeting or pour coffee or clean up or greet, those are integral parts of that meeting. What happens if you don’t show up? Well, someone fills in for you. AA carries on. Sometimes things come up that we have to take care of. Be responsible. Find someone to fill in for you. It will make you feel better.
District 23 Meeting Notes Date: September 6, 2018
|Lori B.||Event Chair|
|Matt S.||GSR – Tuesday 8:15 Big Book|
|Len S.||GSR – TGIF Friday|
|Randy F||GSR – Rocksolid|
|Mike I.||GSR – CandleLight 10:10 PM|
|Jack C.||GSR – 12×12 Sat 12:15|
|Lisa S.||GSR – Sunday Free to Be 10a|
|Melissa K.||GSR – KISS|
|Renee W.||GSR – Wed Noonbreak Meeting|
|DCM (Warren W.) Greetings District 23,
Thanks to all who helped with the hospitality room at the Cornhusker Roundup, especially Cliff and Lori for their planning and leadership. The new setup was great, and I think we helped to spread the message of fun and fellowship. Please join us for our upcoming planning meetings for the Feast, Fling and Fellowship. This is our 29th year of hosting this event and it is a wonderful display of what we do as a district. I want to encourage more GSRs to join us for district meetings, if you would like me to speak at your meeting or have any questions please don’t hesitate to contact me. Thanks for all you do! In Service, Warren W.
|Alternate DCM (Cliff V.)Last month we had our District 23 Hospitality Room for the Cornhusker Roundup. There was a lot of support from members of the District. Thank you everyone for sharing your experience! And thank you to everyone who got into service and made it a successful event! We received $137.81 from the donation can. Had expenses of $100.01 for the wings on Friday and the sandwiches on Saturday, $14.00 for the Big Book we raffled off and $8.55 for plastic cups, leaving $15.25 to go into the District’s account. I will cover more details at the follow up meeting, Sunday Sept 9th, 11:30 at Chapter VI. This will be after the FF&F planning meeting.
I spoke with Bob M., Chapter VI standing committee member, briefly about working together to get all the Ralston meetings sorted out.
Gratefully in service Cliff V
|Treasurer (Kathy G.)
Submit August Treasurer’s report. Motion to approve as submitted, seconded & passed.
District Donations can be remitted to: District 23 Treasurer PO Box 27783 Ralston, NE 68127-0783
|Secretary (Janine)Aug meeting minutes were submitted electronically to all members on the contact list on August 2. Requested any updates or corrections by 8/8. Requested that the meeting minutes be published in the newsletter. Please submit reports for the next district meeting to email@example.com after your meetings so they can be added to these notes. Lori will take minute notes for October. Motion to approve August minutes, seconded & passed.|
|Events (Lori B) ) The Feast, Fling & Fellowship will be held on Saturday October 6, with set-up on Friday October 5. Tickets are $10 or two for $18. We have had one event planning meeting, but still have some positions that need to be filled – coffee, pop, raffle, supply and transport. If you are interested, please see me. Future planning meetings will be held on September 9, September 16 and September 30 (September 23, if needed). Please consider attending the event planning meetings to help out. The event will be a chance to help other alcoholics and to show that “we are not a glum lot.” Thank you for allowing me to serve, Lori B|
|Newsletter (Marilyn C.) We had to have additional newsletters printed for the Roundup. Someone at Area pointed out to Warren that the Area’s Treasurer’s name and phone number were printed which may have breached the 12thtradition. This was corrected to his first name, last initial and mailing address (for contributions). The template has been corrected for future newsletters. The planning committee for the Feast, Fling and Fellowship in October, has requested copies be made available there. Please encourage people to write articles for the newsletter and submit to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Thank you for letting me serve. Respectfully submitted, Marilyn C.|
|Webmaster (Geri S.) Website 57 views; 20 visitors; steady use. Would like to train someone else to help keep it current..|
|Institutions/Bridging the Gap (Jim R)Continue to attend AA meetings at TSCI and believe some progress is being made with a few more inmates coming but most of all they are sharing more of their experiences and the meetings are lasting longer. Jim R|
|Mini Workshop (Kathy O) Workshop September 16 1-3 p.m. Chapter VI Topic: How Helping Others Helps You. Speaker Bryan B. I want to say “Thank You” to all those that have helped out and to those who have supported the mini workshop. Hope to see you at the September workshop. Thank you for letting me serve!|
|Grapevine (Greg B.) If you would like to have some sign ups for yourself or as a gift, please pick up|
|Archives (Craig J) No Report|
|Central Office (Julie F) No Report|
| Hotline (Judd)
Hotline week 2018: Oct 15-21; Dec 24-30
Link to Hotline schedule: http://www.omahaaa.org/Post/sections/3/Files/Hotline%20Schedule%202018%20revised.pdf
|CPC/PI (Michele B)No report|
|GSR ReportsMatt 8:15 Tues doesn’t have a steering committee meeting member. Marilyn invited him to invite one of their members to come to the meeting.|
| Old Business:
Asking for input for D23 hosting Area 41 4 Corners Workshop in 4th Quarter, 2019. A decision was made to not be the Host District for 4th Q 2019. Area 41 will be informed.
Banner Sign update: Hopefully will be completed by 10/6 for FFF.
Announcements:Area 41 2018 Meeting Dates: October 13-14
Ramada Columbus Hotel and Conference Center 265 33rd Ave Columbus, NE 68601
Next Meeting: Thursday, October 4th 2018, 6:30 p.m.
Trinity Methodist Church & Community Center 8009 Q St Ralston
Are you, or do you know someone, who is: homebound, in a nursing home? You can go to meetings on the phone! Visit Online Intergroup at: aa-intergroup.org. Then click on the ‘online meetings’ box. Then click on ‘telephone’ and find your meetings. I was amazed to find this in the Grapevine! There are meetings every day of the week and at all hours.